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Sex in death and the Equal Money System

In April 2012 Egyptian Islamists have caused a stir in the world by proposing several new laws that focus on a man’s ‘live’ property – the woman. From the Western perspective most proposals concentrate on what might be considered conventional or habitual aspects of a typical extremist religious orientation towards husband and wife, such as the bride’s age, the right to seek divorce, and the female’s circumcision. These proposals went rather unnoticed in the Western Press except the one that would grant husbands permission to have sex with their wives within 6 hours of death. It’s the ‘farewell fuck’, so to speak. Other sources, for example Isalmists in London, deny that such a ‘farewell fuck’ law could come into being in Egypt. They argue that it may be a proposal but that it would never make it into parliament.

Whether we look at ‘farewell-fucking’, Clitoridectomy or foot-binding as examples for practices that are formed from religious beliefs,  and when we look beyond the male-female dynamic, what comes to the forefront it the notion of self-interest. This self-interest is not only that of men as it would initially seem to be, because many of these practices are directed towards women, who are compliant for their own reasons within the trap of self-interest. (to be cared for, to be protected, for example). Obviously in most cases it is the mothers who are implicated because they are the ones who are allowing the mutilations on their children.

These types of practices demonstrate our ways of existing in self-interest:  as long as we can find others who share the subject of our self-interest the more likely we can find ways to pursue it through public institution e.g. law, customs. The ‘carrier’ of self-interest in these cases is religious belief, and holds more true for countries who have rather homogenous religious teachings established over centuries. Other countries, mostly Western-oriented countries, utilise cultural focusses such as beauty & fashion. Prominent examples here are anorexia, or the wearing of very high heels which represents in its effects a milder version of foot-binding, otherwise we see liposuction, breast implants, and so forth.

What all of these abusive practices have in common is that they disable the physical body in some way, or on the minimal scale, shape it through abuse. But then how does farewell fucking differ when it’s no longer about the living body and the dead body has only x amount of hours before it definitely becomes unusable because it decomposes?

The first point is that the woman’s role is that of property and not of an equal being, or the recognition of beingness, of aliveness. Therefore if a man can have sex with a dead women it is not because both are sharing their beingness or aliveness with each other, but that this is a matter of him enacting a picture he prefers, his memories, and his sexual urges – and so in that moment he represents all that we have done in the name of sex collectively: pornography, masturbation, sex slaves, sex trade, pedophilia and so forth.  The man might be the catalyst of the situation but there is a fundamental factor here which implicates men and women alike:  the sexual engagement is a solo mental pursuit, it is the mental pursuit in search of self-gratification, and the physical body of another is the object by which this pursuit is achieved – thus other bodies functions as a vehicle which can be discarded after use.  Now that we have established it as a mental pursuit there is more to say about the mind.

Another view of the dead body’s farewell fuck is that it is a really a ‘fearwell’ fuck. It is the desperateness of the mind that fears of having no more access to the physical body ( the one the man is married to, the one he considers his property). It is thus the same fear we have losing objects, or a house, a car – the fear is about losing access to the living flesh as provider for the mind – in the mental pursuit of self-gratification.  Thus it is not difficult to see that the living flesh is a resource, like the earth, we try to hold on to as long as we can, entirely oblivious of the effects. This is also evident in other ways when we look at how we handle the resources that come from the living earth, the pattern of behaviour is identical. We act in self-interest and are oblivious to the effects e.g. Fukushima.

Yet, at the same time, the mind realises that it cannot exist without the physical body, and because there is no control over the physical body (i.e. the dying body) the aliveness of the body slips away without the mind having any way of stopping it e.g. medical research. Therefore the control that the mind wants to experience is of course imaginary, but is through social and cultural mechanisms of domination that it believes it can do so. We have thus arrived in this beginning of the article.

However,  obvious cultural mechanisms such as collective religious beliefs can be matched by more subtle versions – from which no nation or country is exempt. An example is our pursuit for education because we value intellectual thought over physical labor. That is why jobs with more education are paid more, or why we look down on people with less education. Those with the better paid jobs are in the position to campaign for their self-interest, for example in form of laws as the death-fuck case illustrates. Yet, the death fuck is actually revealing to us that the mind fears losing the body because it cannot survive without physicality. The mind is the ultimate ‘co-dependent’ aspect of us, in all its one dimensionality, as it exists in separation from the body which is the one component that guarantees its survival.

Lastly, why many seem outraged about the death-fuck is because on some level everyone knows that it reveals the true nature of the mind. The death-fuck, may or may not become law in Egypt. However, it vividly demonstrates our disposition is self-interest and from here all else unfolds, all the way to death. The implementation of the change we want is thus simple

1) stop all self-interest > start interest in all equally

2) apply this to all that we consider resources, e.g. raw materials,
food, people, etc – in short, money as a proxy to resources

3) Implement the solution: the Equal Money System

Some of us have made a head start in stating what they see to be best for all, check out the topics for an equal money system!

Participate, join, change, and share your beingness with all equally!



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2012: The Stockholm Syndrome exposes the true nature of love

Even if you have not taken psychology 101 and you will hear the definitions and examples of the Stockholm Syndrome, you will find it a curious fact about humans and their propensity towards violence and brutality. And – I will add here – the various perspectives on love and feelings at the same time.

The predominate perspective by which the Stockholm Syndrome is introduced to us is from the perspective of the capturer. Though when we look at it in depth, by looking at it from the perspective of the victim, we see that was lies at the essence of the Stockholm Syndrome is the discrepancy between how we define love, and how we actually live these definitions in our daily reality, individually and collectively.

Pictured here is one of the Swedish capturers, Olofsson, and hostages of the famous Kreditbanken case that led to the coinage of the term Stockholm Syndrome

The Stockholm Syndrome which is still debated by some, who are unwilling to face the incongruity of human existence, contributes to the lack of a widely accepted diagnostic criteria. This is in spite of an overwhelming amount of cases, some of them widely publicised – to name a few: Jaycee Lee Dugard, Patty Hearst, and more recently Shawn Hornbeck and Natascha Kampush.  There are also many unknown cases of the terror-bonding or trauma-bonding behaviour as the Syndrome is also called.

What exactly happens within each of these victims is unknown, what is known that they “develop feelings” for their capturers while being held captive and coerced into intensively detrimental living conditions. The famous case in Sweden involving thieves Jan-Erik Olsson and Clark Olofsson and four hostages, ended with the freed hostages hugging and kissing their capturers as they were taken to jail.

One argument that tries to explain away the incomprehensible notion of why someone would fall in love with one’s capturer is that this behaviour supports the victim to survive until being freed. What this argument reveals, if we take the perspective of how we accept love to exist in our reality, is that love is predicated by abuse. In the most extreme rendering of abuse that humans are capable off, this translates to:  for love to exist, then there must be war.

A first reaction to such statements would prompt most to delineate that not all love is the same, and that the kind of love experienced through terror-bonding cannot be considered true love. However, this delineation is a form of fragmentation, a separation in how we see ourselves, exemplified by definitions and behaviours. It does not let us see that the perception of and believe in these differences is the denial of the evil that is humanity.

Once we let go of this fragmentation and look at contextualising our understanding of love as it exists in the world, we find that love, for example “true” versus “not true” – is indicated by degrees of abuse. Thus, it is the combination of ‘love as degrees of abuse’ by which we define ourselves in the world as loving beings.

Similar degrees of abuse as with the Stockholm Syndrome appear in the phenomenon of the battered wife who goes back to her abusive husband knowingly that she will repeatedly face situations of abuse. The love of conventional partnerships, on the other hand, reflect the standardised approach to ‘love as degrees of abuse’ which is not physically referenced yet is part and parcel to the repertoire of emotions we use to manipulate and sabotage our relationships. For example:  jealousy and competition constitute the hidden outcomes of abuse. Whether sexual or non-sexual, relationships with humans operate from this same emotional premise and abuse – in the name of love.

When we move away from the human-directed ‘love as degrees of abuse’ formula, we arrive at spiritual love. The most devastating version that permeates all spheres of society but especially the economic and religious societal arenas of cultures worldwide. The two foremost mechanisms that conjure up high degrees of abuse are self-righteousness and self-interest. In the former we are dealing with a ‘brand of god’ that the individual or the group is willing to wage war for, be it the holy war of Islam or the war of consumerism by the god of the law of attraction.  The economically supported self-interest of spiritual love starts off with the physical manifestation of a monetary system of have and have-nots which – in god we trust – will give permission to its believers to invade entire countries and wage war to take over resources that facilitate the ‘good life’.

The tools to conduct abuse are hidden behind a deceptive facade of oneness and goodness, which enables its followers to conveniently justify all kinds of atrocities. Self-righteousness as well as self-interest enable believers of spiritual love to neglect and deny responsibility as a member, a participant, in the group called humanity. Spiritual love followers negate physical application towards changing the system so that it is best for all.  In conclusion, the Stockholm Syndrome shows that all love is coupled with abuse and this abuse is accepted when it is within the stanardised approach to conventionally defined partner and relationships.

Evidently, the point of supporting an abusive monetary system can be seen when suggesting an EQUAL MONEY SYSTEM where those who react in fear cannot bear the loss of abuse. Abuse which emanates from our current economical system and which causes each to live their life in fear of survival. The suggestion of an EQUAL MONEY SYSTEM which would grant a free life from birth to death by taking care of all equally, brings up the identical dynamics as the Stockholm Syndrome: The belief in a good and loving delusion which maintains the abusive system as it is – than to stop all abuse and give to all what one wants for oneself. It is associating with ego, the abuser and emotional capturer, than associating with equal living for all and the end of all abuse.

At Desteni we say stop the deception of how we define love and stand up for the only definition of love: oneness through equality and what is best for all.

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2012 – The Atlantean equation

Atlantis and the myth about it used to have a magical effect on me. It allowed me to go into a dream state that I used as mental landing pad into my imagination: there is a whole world out there of which I know nothing of. Was it just a story, was it real?  I recall when the love & light community was considering humans as star seeds, and everyone chose a favourite extraterrestrial they wanted to be connected with, I wanted to be “from” Atlantis. Today, I realise that wanting to be ‘something’ else than human is an indication of the mess we humans have created of life on earth. A place that is becoming less and less inhabitable because of the accumulation of physical evidence that self-interest is destructive, and our existence in this way futile and finite.

To hear the real story of Atlantis from an Atlantean made me realise the illusion we live today.

When I listened to the interview: Atlantis – the untold story, I realised that my previous mystification of Atlantis is the escape we all exist within, to suspend the fear of not knowing who we are or where we came from, an escape mechanism we have so thoroughly accepted to exist as our culture. We use this mechanism to give ourselves the license to conjure up anything we want. “Hey, we just don’t know any better”.  The Atlantean who spoke through Sunette was clearly not feeding my imagination anymore. The being was showing us in its own words that there are other things that exist as reality – beyond our imagination, and that we have little or no clue of what that really is:  Growth of self through equality and oneness.

Atlanteans had a concrete grasp on maintaining oneness with each other. It was in their interest to maintain this oneness because it was in the interest of all – basic common sense! When the conditions for one are unacceptable then sooner or later this will be the case for all. For example: if we were to drop colour into a bucket of clear water, the water would become coloured throughout, the drop would not just stay in one corner, refusing to acknowledge that it is in the same bucket with all the other water and therefore not mix.  The more colour we add to the water in the bucket, the more intense the colour becomes. Take this as an analogy, humans are made up from 99% water.

Our existence is self-contradictory. One the one hand we are clueless of our beginnings, our purpose, if there is one; or why we live the way we do. On the other hand, the one thing we know for fact is where we are going because we actually create it physically in the world. This is the only reliable measure we have. Yet we make no use of it – we either deny the physical changes of earth, or we claim no participation. Here we miss exactly what it is we do in essence, and that which we claim to be our culture. We draw on activities that pursue illusion. We pursue that which is not real, not here in the physical world but we make it either so in our minds, or with physical means that can convince the mind and our feelings that the illusion is real.

From entertainment, such as the making of film, the writing of novels, the playing of games, to spirituality, rituals, and love & light celebrations – we persistently chase the illusionary. How can we not see this? It is so blatant in the world we live in – our population is largely starving, species are going extinct, we torture and massacre ourselves and all living creatures around us. Yet, the few that have a good life believe that the colour (referring to the water example mentioned above) will never reach them.  Nevertheless, the evidence is found among those as well: steadily increasing numbers of sicknesses and the consumption of pharmaceutical products – that are supposed to hold up a sick body in a sick world.

My conclusion after having listened to the Atlantean is this:
The pursuit of illusion in all its forms, resulting from the starting point of denial that we are held together by one place (earth) and by the same (earth) materials, diminishes life until non-existence is reached.

The pursuit of equality in all its forms, resulting from the starting point of acknowledgement that we are rooted and birthed from one place, supported by the same materials encourages infinite growth and the flourishing of all life.

My choice is clear.

Equality and oneness literature and interviews: http://www.eqafe.com

Equality and oneness economic approach: http://www.equalmoney.org

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How translating Equal Money FAQ texts supports our agreement

Last night as I was sitting down with Gabriel to work on the next French translation of one of the Equal Money FAQs, I realised that doing this work assists us together and individually in multiple ways. Collaborating with Gabriel on these translations is interesting because we are both teacher and student to each other. Although our French skills are on different levels, they are intermittent in complimentary ways.  This gives us the opportunity to discover new terminology, or aspects of tweaking an expression, together.

The translation becomes the central item for interaction where we position ourselves as equals around it. Our roles within that are not pre-defined which requires ongoing awareness of one’s allowed and accepted reactions according to what we have learned from pre-programmed roles in education. In other words, when one is in the student role one easily slips into ways of communicating with inferiority. Likewise, when one is in the role of teaching, the pre-programmed default is to communicate from a place of superiority. Therefore not being established and locked into a role in one’s interaction heightens one’s awareness to detect subtle manipulations, to see when there might be a momentary oscillation going on between a teacher-student and student-teacher reaction, and stand up to correct oneself in breath.

In addition, we support each other as we both approach learning in different ways.  In the process of translating a text, I like to take a moment and thoroughly investigate the different aspects of a term or phrase, which is predicated by having gained an in-depth view on all facets of use of the expression in question. Gabriel on the other hand stresses pronunciation and intonation in much detail.  The result is that these varying emphases, of how we like to learn, are reflective of our strengths and enable us to lift each other up equally.

Then there is the content of the FAQ that assists as well. When translating from one language to another, no aspect of understanding is taken for granted.  Direct translation is often nonsensical and to express the sense of the original in the language to be translated requires one to have a full grasp on the concept that is being conveyed.

Sometimes the nuances of meaning are quite subtle but utterly important in the context of Destonian research. With detailed reviewing of each phrase that is up for translation, I have noticed that new insights come to the forefront as well. Yesterday for example we translated “Can you profit from equality?” In answering the FAQ, Bernard points out that the profit of equality is in the fact that the future is predictable, in that you will have everything you ever needed and wanted.

My new insight here is this: We are pre-programmed beings, and we are born into this world to execute a complex program that is linked to the three minds (conscious, sub- and unconscious), to the collective, and to our ancestors. What will happen to this aspect of our existence in an Equal Money System is that pre-programming is deferred from the mind to the physical. As we let go of the mental pre-programming through the DesteniIProcess, we become creators of our reality – the living word which arises moment-by-moment through breath. Indeed, we become free of the mind!

By contrast, utlising the concept of pre-programming for the physical aspects of our existence, to warrant the phrase “to be taken care of from birth to death”, we create physical freedom because we contain the limitations of our three-dimensional reality so that we can only profit from them- thus pre-programming is the compliment to create our complete freedom from the mind!

Like many of the other Destonian campaigns I have been part of – each one comes to me bearing a gift that I would not want to miss. If you want to experience what I am talking about – simply join us! We are here and we invite you!

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