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Educating the human – but where is the sex?

Desteni Artist Garbrielle Goodrow

Why would any society, or the world for that matter, who is obsessed with knowledge and information, omit sex from education? The undeniable reality is that sex, one of the fundamental aspects of human life, coequal to the biological requirement of food and elimination of every human, would have second to none appearance in the curriculum of any educational body? Why is it that we believe that calculus or the periodic table is more important than to understand how to approach your sex partner or what it means to have sexual urges? Isn’t it interesting that most of us accept the fact that sex is used to inundate the world with imagery to make us shop till we drop, yet we create so much stigma around the simple sexual act that we do not even want to talk about it to our children. We prefer to conjure up all kinds of emotions, be it fear, anger, shame and guilt regarding our own personal sexual activities. There can be only one answer: money.

Money is the motivator of our current existence in this world and it includes the motivation to institutionalise the physical act of intercourse between two humans. It may not be so apparent at first but when we round up the current literature and documentaries that look at the topic critically, we can see that the gap of sexual non-education has been filled by the porn industry. The porn industry, a billion-dollar industry, is one of the most powerful drivers of the development of internet technologies while its involvement reaches far and deep. Many of the rather unsuspecting tech companies have benefitted from secret earnings through the porn industry. To name a few: Yahoo, Foxnews, and Comcast. That the porn industry is at the forefront of making money with emerging technologies is evident by looking at the porn revenues on handheld devices that are estimated to increase by 75% in 2013, with a closing figure on the $5 billion dollar mark.

The convenience of technology brings porn ever closer to the growing youth. What used to require of a man to seek out bookstores with “under” the counter dealings of porn magazines can now be had at any location with a button click on your latest mobile device. Nowadays, one often has to go out of one’s virtual way not to land accidentally on a porn website. Though porn is not made in China, it has reached levels of consumption that rival any other product staged on the global market of consumer saturation.

The point is that sex education has never been taking seriously in academia because with the money-making potential it puts forth, it has provided a huge turnover in a widely-faceted industry. From websites to franchises, to all kinds of accessories, to sex tourism – the porn industry has thoroughly penetrated society. Let’s not forget that by addressing questions of sex know-how inquired by young men, who are tech-savvy and full of pulsating sex urges, a life-long customer can be had. The effort to get a young boy hooked on the images of copulating men and women is effortless when considering that “ 9 out of 10 children aged between 8 and 16 have viewed pornography on the Internet. In most cases, the sex sites were accessed unintentionally when a child, often in the process of doing homework, used a seemingly innocent sounding word to search for information or pictures.”

What is even more interesting in this educational dilemma illustrated in the above-mentioned quote, which stems from the prestigious London School of Economics, is that academia has no problem looking at porn from a number of objections: Statistical usage through quantitative analysis is one of them; the study of sexual behaviour in society and media; as well as the question of gender equality are among the hot topics in the humanities. It is pathetic that all of academia will exploit the criticism that can be focussed upon the porn industry, as a field of study, but will do nothing in bringing sex closer to the curriculum of an average school day.

So if men get their sex education from the porn industry, how are women-at-large affected by the porn industry through their relationships with men? In other words, what is it that porn teaches women? Here again the answer is straight forward: to sell themselves. Each women on the planet knows that sex appeal will get her what she wants. The better she can sell her appeal to sex when interacting with men, the more likely she will have a good job and make sufficient money. The reason for that is that the world is male-dominated and men not only learn how to “deal” with a women intimately from pornography but they also learn to value a woman on the basis of her sexual attributes. Surely the relationship of a man’s parents will have been eroded and undermined as dominant influence in referencing the social value of women. The power of daily repetition of pornographic imagery is exceptionally well illustrated by those who admit to being porn addicted and those who admit to rape based on their porn addiction.

Although a prostitute or porn star will have to literally sell her body, the average women does it in a more abstract or remote manner through intermediate artefacts that objectify. May that be a nice pair of high heels, or a flattering haircut, maybe it’s that short dress or that breast enlargement surgery. ISAPS Global Survey, apparently the first reliable source for plastic surgery statistics, states that in the last 10 years breast augmentation has been the most popular procedure in the global trend of body modifications. Though the price that women pay for having learned to sell themselves does not end with shaping one’s body to have more sex appeal, it ends in bed. Women’s intimate interactions with men are modelled on what men know from pornography, where communication is typically reduced to assumptions, and aggressive starting points are accepted as valid because that is how the porn industry sells what women like.

If we were to take responsibility for our educational system and decide to take on sex education as one of the main subjects in school, thus debunking pornography in all its manifestations, we could provide the maturing youth with input that places sex into the equality of life. The prerequisite for this is a new economic system where money has lost all its value and operates in servitude of life. Then, all issues of inequality between men and women would fall away and we could restart our existence from a virtually unknown place of physical interactions…
– and this is what will happen when we switch to an Equal Money System.

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Sex in death and the Equal Money System

In April 2012 Egyptian Islamists have caused a stir in the world by proposing several new laws that focus on a man’s ‘live’ property – the woman. From the Western perspective most proposals concentrate on what might be considered conventional or habitual aspects of a typical extremist religious orientation towards husband and wife, such as the bride’s age, the right to seek divorce, and the female’s circumcision. These proposals went rather unnoticed in the Western Press except the one that would grant husbands permission to have sex with their wives within 6 hours of death. It’s the ‘farewell fuck’, so to speak. Other sources, for example Isalmists in London, deny that such a ‘farewell fuck’ law could come into being in Egypt. They argue that it may be a proposal but that it would never make it into parliament.

Whether we look at ‘farewell-fucking’, Clitoridectomy or foot-binding as examples for practices that are formed from religious beliefs,  and when we look beyond the male-female dynamic, what comes to the forefront it the notion of self-interest. This self-interest is not only that of men as it would initially seem to be, because many of these practices are directed towards women, who are compliant for their own reasons within the trap of self-interest. (to be cared for, to be protected, for example). Obviously in most cases it is the mothers who are implicated because they are the ones who are allowing the mutilations on their children.

These types of practices demonstrate our ways of existing in self-interest:  as long as we can find others who share the subject of our self-interest the more likely we can find ways to pursue it through public institution e.g. law, customs. The ‘carrier’ of self-interest in these cases is religious belief, and holds more true for countries who have rather homogenous religious teachings established over centuries. Other countries, mostly Western-oriented countries, utilise cultural focusses such as beauty & fashion. Prominent examples here are anorexia, or the wearing of very high heels which represents in its effects a milder version of foot-binding, otherwise we see liposuction, breast implants, and so forth.

What all of these abusive practices have in common is that they disable the physical body in some way, or on the minimal scale, shape it through abuse. But then how does farewell fucking differ when it’s no longer about the living body and the dead body has only x amount of hours before it definitely becomes unusable because it decomposes?

The first point is that the woman’s role is that of property and not of an equal being, or the recognition of beingness, of aliveness. Therefore if a man can have sex with a dead women it is not because both are sharing their beingness or aliveness with each other, but that this is a matter of him enacting a picture he prefers, his memories, and his sexual urges – and so in that moment he represents all that we have done in the name of sex collectively: pornography, masturbation, sex slaves, sex trade, pedophilia and so forth.  The man might be the catalyst of the situation but there is a fundamental factor here which implicates men and women alike:  the sexual engagement is a solo mental pursuit, it is the mental pursuit in search of self-gratification, and the physical body of another is the object by which this pursuit is achieved – thus other bodies functions as a vehicle which can be discarded after use.  Now that we have established it as a mental pursuit there is more to say about the mind.

Another view of the dead body’s farewell fuck is that it is a really a ‘fearwell’ fuck. It is the desperateness of the mind that fears of having no more access to the physical body ( the one the man is married to, the one he considers his property). It is thus the same fear we have losing objects, or a house, a car – the fear is about losing access to the living flesh as provider for the mind – in the mental pursuit of self-gratification.  Thus it is not difficult to see that the living flesh is a resource, like the earth, we try to hold on to as long as we can, entirely oblivious of the effects. This is also evident in other ways when we look at how we handle the resources that come from the living earth, the pattern of behaviour is identical. We act in self-interest and are oblivious to the effects e.g. Fukushima.

Yet, at the same time, the mind realises that it cannot exist without the physical body, and because there is no control over the physical body (i.e. the dying body) the aliveness of the body slips away without the mind having any way of stopping it e.g. medical research. Therefore the control that the mind wants to experience is of course imaginary, but is through social and cultural mechanisms of domination that it believes it can do so. We have thus arrived in this beginning of the article.

However,  obvious cultural mechanisms such as collective religious beliefs can be matched by more subtle versions – from which no nation or country is exempt. An example is our pursuit for education because we value intellectual thought over physical labor. That is why jobs with more education are paid more, or why we look down on people with less education. Those with the better paid jobs are in the position to campaign for their self-interest, for example in form of laws as the death-fuck case illustrates. Yet, the death fuck is actually revealing to us that the mind fears losing the body because it cannot survive without physicality. The mind is the ultimate ‘co-dependent’ aspect of us, in all its one dimensionality, as it exists in separation from the body which is the one component that guarantees its survival.

Lastly, why many seem outraged about the death-fuck is because on some level everyone knows that it reveals the true nature of the mind. The death-fuck, may or may not become law in Egypt. However, it vividly demonstrates our disposition is self-interest and from here all else unfolds, all the way to death. The implementation of the change we want is thus simple

1) stop all self-interest > start interest in all equally

2) apply this to all that we consider resources, e.g. raw materials,
food, people, etc – in short, money as a proxy to resources

3) Implement the solution: the Equal Money System

Some of us have made a head start in stating what they see to be best for all, check out the topics for an equal money system!

Participate, join, change, and share your beingness with all equally!

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